How to prepare a child for a kindergarten: main psychological tips
Such preparation should be started no earlier than after the child is more than 1.5 years old. As a rule, in this period, children begin to gain some independence from their mother. Chances are you have been leaving your child at his/her grandparents or with a nanny. If you had no such experience, now it would be nice to take care of it.
Presenting other adults to a child
Start better from afar. Try to visit your friend and take your daughter or son with you, so that the communication with other adults and children will take place under your supervision. Next, to the mother, the baby will feel more confident. Gradually, the child will learn that there are other good adults in the world, besides mom or dad and grandmother or grandfather.
It may seem to someone that all this has little to do with kindergarten. In fact, such consistent, calm schooling of children to interact with adults is of great importance for their successful adaptation both in kindergarten, and in school, and in society as a whole!
If you have such an opportunity, you can visit some game center or early development group together with your child. The main goal should not be the intellectual development of the baby, but the gradual adaptation to society. Little by little, your little human being will get used and acquainted to the teacher who holds the classes. As well as learn the fact that in certain conditions not only the mom may represent the “main” adult may not be the mother, but someone else – and this will not be stressful at all, because the mother still remains nearby.
Teaching a child to communicate with other children
Go at the playgrounds, visit your friends with children and invite them to your home. Teach your child the to accept the norms of communication: how to meet, start a game or join children who are already playing, learn to exchange toys, keep the order of the games, solve conflicts, etc.
Introducing a child to working together as a team
Try to do something together with your child as often as possible, the more of you there are, the better (try to involve parents, grandparents, a nanny, etc: play together, walk together, clean the apartment together. The kid needs to gain the experience of not individual action, but working in a team, along with other children and adults.
Another point: the degree of conflict in family relations. Some readers may be surprised, but the complete conflict-free environment is as harmful as extremely conflict too. Everyone knows that it’s bad when people constantly quarrel. However, it is not healthy if they do not quarrel at all.
Gradually teach the child to the fact that some of their actions may cause dissatisfaction of other people and how to solve it. Explain to them that sometimes people have a different point of view, and not only mom and dad may be dissatisfied with a baby, but in some cases other people. Express your dissatisfaction with them when they do something wrong, teach your child to behave constructively in conflict situations. Consider that the child learns most about conflict resolution from family members. For example, if you and your husband insult and humiliate each other in the heat of a quarrel, then the child is more likely to behave in the same way.